Sexual dimorphism is a cissexist conspiracy! >:-(
question to my lesbian followers

So many males on tumblr rage that lesbians aren’t attracted to them -

but what about outside of the internet?

Did some dude ever threw tantrums because of your lack of attraction to him and thus invalidating his identity/”womanhood”/”femaleness” and so on?

If so - what was your reaction?


Sometimes cisbians are as bad as cis men.

Writes the angry male.

you continuously say that trans women don't know what it's like to be born female, but you don't know what it's like to be trans, so what gives you more right to speak over them?




i actually do know what it’s like to be trans tho???

i have talked about this on my blog before and how from the ages of 15-19 i was in the transition process of FTM which included psych evaluations, HRT, and surgery appointments including bottom surgery with Dr Brassard in Montreal, Canada.

but it never felt right to me truly, except i thought transitioning was my only option because i was a female who didn’t “feel like” the other girls because i liked sports and rough-housing with my bros and i only had guy friends and i liked to dress “like a boy” and i hated having a vagina and a period and stupid boobs and i wanted to get rid of ‘em and also i was attracted to other girls so because of those things i “felt like” a boy and thus EUREKA THE OPTION IS TRANSITION!!!!

except it was never quite right because like… dressing like a boy and binding my chest and having surgery were not ever going to genuinely make me into a boy so why was i doing this shit to myself?

anyway THERAPY OUT THE WAZOO and hurrah hello i am a very happy woman completely satisfied with herself, her lesbian identity, and her understanding of life as a woman in a patriarchy so restrictive it made her believe she had to “become” a boy just to be herself.

so ya actually i do understand what it’s like.

and how much bullshit it all is and it’s just oppressive conditioning brainwashing crap.

so. that, and a ton of detransitioned people here on tumblr can tell you their stories as well and how it’s all crap and as a woman who had to go through all of that in order to discover her true self… males who think they can step into the womanhood i fucking nearly killed myself for (AS A FEMALE, NO LESS) can sit down rn.

Detransitioners NEVER “count” for these people. It’s a “no true scotsman” fallacy: if you detransition, then you were never truly trans.

<3 Indeed, Shamelesslyunladylike, and thank you for getting that.

Never mind that in our little pack of detransitioned women we can count women who had sex dypshoria in addition to women whose dysphoria started as a gender problem; women who passed and women who never did; women who were “true transsexual” “truscum” with intractable dysphoria from childhood and women who were “genderqueer” “genderspecials;” women who were/are butch and women who were never lesbian. The hierarchies of realness—“status” stratifications—are toxic to us all.

I’ve been around long enough to watch the Official Line on Real Transness change mightily to adapt to new critiques. It has “transitioned,” if you will.

The irony’s thicker than I can manage: trans means you are whatever you feel yourself to be uwu; detransitioned means you’re a delusional fuckup. A woman is anyone who says they are a woman; a detransitioned woman is an “iidiot” for being gender-fucked by patriarchy.

And of course if any one of us said tomorrow that we were going back, we’d be “real” again.

And when I see queer theorists saying that the sex binary is inherently oppressive, I can’t help but think it’s because they can’t imagine a world where male and female could exist and not dominate each other. Radicals see the material reality of biological sex and reject a system that uses those facts to organize its oppression of females; queer theorists, on the other hand, can’t separate the two – the non-oppressive reality and the oppressive fiction constructed in relation to that reality – so their only option to avoid the resultant abuse is to deny the facts.

Queer theorists see the intimate connection between biological sex and oppression, and they react by dismantling the notion of biological sex; feminists see the intimate connection between biological sex and oppression, and they react by dismantling oppression. That’s the fundamental difference between liberals and radicals; one destroys truth to avoid confronting power, and one confronts power to avoid destroying truth.


Like it really is so tiring as a woman to constantly have to be aware of your looks and how it’s being consumed by the world around you and if you’re constantly meeting all these ridiculous standards of acceptable beauty it’s literally so fucking restricting and I feel like it took a huge chunk of my life to realize I don’t have to do any of this shit


Gas Mark Six

July 22, 2014 partners, trans

Here’s something I wrote when I was asked to speak alongside Sheila Jeffreys, who was speaking about her book “Gender Hurts”, about how transgenderism harms women. In the end, I didn’t say all this, but for those of…

Not all love is gentle. Sometimes it’s gritty and dirty and possessive, sometimes it’s not supposed to be careful or soft at all. Sometimes it feels like teeth.
Azra T (via lesbianfang)


The most powerful oppressor is not the one who can kill, but the one who can convince the world that the oppressed deserves their oppression.

If porn is so empowering then why does revenge porn exist?


I hate this idea that slurs can be labelled “reclaimed” for everybody everywhere. To me, reclaiming slurs is a very personal experience and involves a conscious decision to take something hurtful and make it your personal strength.

You can’t reclaim slurs for other people and just because many people in one area may reclaim a slur doesn’t mean that it’s been “globally” reclaimed.

At a lecture I was giving in a large West Coast university in the Spring of 2008, the female students talked extensively about how much they preferred to have a completely waxed pubic area as it made them feel “clean,” “hot” and “well groomed.” As they excitedly insisted that they themselves chose to have a Brazilian wax, one student let slip that her boyfriend had complained when she decided to give up on waxing. Then there was silence. I asked the student to say more about her boyfriend’s preferences and how she felt about his criticism. As she started to speak other students joined in, only now the conversation took a very different turn. The excitement in the room gave way to a subdued discussion on how some boyfriends had even refused to have sex with non-waxed girlfriends as they “looked gross.” One student told the group how her boyfriend bought her a waxing kit for Valentine’s Day, while yet another sent out an email to his friends joking about his girlfriend’s “hairy beaver.” No, she did not break up with him, she got waxed instead.

Two weeks after the waxing discussion, I was at an East Coast Ivy League school where some female students became increasingly angry. They accused me of denying them free choice in their embracing of our hypersexualized porn culture, and being the next generation’s elite women, this idea was especially repugnant because they saw no limits or constraints on them as women. Literally two minutes later, one of the students made a joke about the “trick” that many of them employ as a way to avoid hookup sex. What is this trick? These women purposely don’t shave or wax as they are getting ready to go out that night so they will feel too embarrassed to participate in hookup sex. As she spoke, I watched as others nodded their heads in agreement. When I asked why they couldn’t just say no to sex, they informed me that once you have a few drinks in you, and are at a party or a bar, it is too hard to say no. I was speechless, not least because they had just been arguing that I had denied them agency in my discussion of porn culture, and yet they saw no contradiction in telling me that they didn’t have the agency to say no to sex. The next day I flew to Utah to give a lecture in a small college, which although not a religious college, had a good percentage of Mormons and Catholics. I told them about the lecture the previous night and asked them if they knew what the trick was. It turns out that trick is everywhere, including Utah.

I tell this story because, on many levels, it neatly captures how the porn culture is affecting young women’s lives. The reality is that women don’t need to look at porn to be profoundly affected by it because images, representations, and messages of porn are now delivered to women via pop culture. Women today are still not major consumers of hard-core porn; they are, however, whether they know it or not, internalizing porn ideology, an ideology that often masquerades as advice on how to be hot, rebellious, and cool in order to attract (and hopefully keep) a man. An excellent example is genital waxing, which first became popular in porn (not least because it makes the women look pre-pubescent) and then filtered down into women’s media such as Cosmopolitan, a magazine that regularly features stories and tips on what “grooming” methods women should adopt to attract a man. Sex and the City, that hugely successful show with an almost cult following, also used waxing as a storyline. For instance, in the movie, Miranda is chastised by Samantha for “letting herself go” by having pubic hair.


men like girls who “don’t know they are beautiful” because they are afraid that one day you will realise that you are the sun and the stars and he is nothing but a discarded plastic bag clogging up the ocean that you are





I’m really enjoying the wailing over this “circumgender” thing. They’re soooo pissed at the idea of someone -GASP- co-opting their gold medal in the Oppression Olympics.

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Thanks again for all the new followers, dude!





The next time a man starts yelling at you, cut him off and tell him you just can’t talk to him when he’s being so emotional.

I have done this and can confirm that is a LOT of fun to watch them implode afterward.

Just be careful.

Angry men get unpredictable. Don’t put sass over smart.

And thus the gods created a new jendah.