I think compulsory heterosexuality is an important element for any discourse around the construction of human sexuality in the West, and I think it’s necessary to remember that compulsory heterosexuality is part of what leads to differing experiences in the lives of LGB people.
Although lesbians, gays, and bisexuals all have het-identified behavior to unlearn, and can all do homophobic things, a het-identified position and passing privilege manifest very differently for bisexuals than they do for gays and lesbians, because bisexuals, unlike gays and lesbians, have the added ability to assimilate with and perform heterosexuality in het-partnered relationships.
Gays and lesbians can benefit from passing privilege while in the closet, while being het-identified, and I have never seen anyone deny this reasonably. Still, there’s no real comparison, and trying to make one ultimately sounds like “well gays can be mean too!!!” No one denies that.
And all of this is ridiculous because it should not be controversial to state that bisexuals can enjoy positions of comparative privilege over gays and lesbians. All of this is ridiculous because we should not need to keep having this schism when heterosexuals are a bigger enemy and they’re the ones we learn this shit from. But here we are, making circles in our discourse because people put their feelings over critical thought and revolution.
No, I don’t think that at all. If I didn’t care about trans women, I wouldn’t be writing this blog.
I’m very concerned there’s going to be a pretty serious anti-trans backlash at some point in the next decade or so, partly because trans activism has gotten abusive and out of control, and partly because trans medical care has become a free-for-all.
I’m also very concerned for all the people currently caught up in trans politics bs who have started taking hormones and changing their names, thinking that society will just “get over” the fact that they don’t pass and won’t be able to pass, or that they themselves won’t care. Eventually, a lot of those people are going to come to the realization that they don’t want to stick out their whole lives, and they’re going to detransition. The last thing anyone needs is people cheerleading their unrealistic expectations about transition. It breaks my heart.
I fully support people breaking gender rules, and I fully support the needs of people with sex dysphoria to take steps to feel better in the world. But this anything-goes trans political bullshit needs to stop.
My position is one of tough love, not transphobia. I love trans women enough to try to help set some boundaries!
I am also scared of a coming backlash.
me too, cause it’s not just going to be anti-trans backlash, it’s going to be an anti-lesbian, anti-gay and anti-feminist backlash. the religious right/conservatives/average joe and jane- they don’t see a difference between gay and trans, it’s the same thing to them, it’s all queer to them.
this has always been a fear of mine. I feel like the LGB and feminism has been turned into a circus and a joke. I’m pretty bitter, like someone came into my house and trashed it.
If transwomen aren’t male then what are they transitioning from? Also, why are they transitioning?
when one character wants nothing more than to protect another
and they die anyway (•‿•)
Portgas D Ace :-(
it’s pretty weird how men always blame women for being sexualized by men. how come that always happens? weird, huh?
Oh—you wouldn’t date a girl who’s ever been a stripper?
In that case, I wouldn’t date a guy who’s ever been to a strip club.
Oh—you wouldn’t date a girl who’s ever done porn?
In that case, I wouldn’t date a guy who’s ever watched porn.
You’re the reason we exist.
You’re the demand to our supply.
If you disdain sex workers, don’t you dare consume our labor.
As they say in the industry, “People jack off with the left hand and point with the right.”
to call a woman cis against her will is to assert that she is comfortable with the marginalization she has experienced her entire life because of her sex and coercively assigned gender and like yo that makes you a defcon 1 asshole
There can be a million made up genders. It doesn’t matter. Because none of it has any kind of biological basis. Most of the gender terms used by queer activists today were only recently invented, and most of our society doesn’t recognize them.
The point is, all over the world, we are socialized into masculinity and femininity.. This is gender. This is harmful. It doesn’t matter if you identify as an agenderfluid faebunny beetle queer, from birth you experience socialization based on your sex, and either privileges or punishments based on your sex as well. This is what radical feminists want to stop. Sex differences should mean nothing. People should be free to behave and dress as they wish, provided they are not harming anyone. To get there, we don’t need to make more gender roles and identities. We need to abolish the ones we’re actively being socialized into.
how is this still hard to grasp??? People are still out there saying shit like “there’s more than 2 genders, I should know I’m a dragon-femme-glitter-man-woman on wednesdays :))) pls respect my identity :)”.
Gina Rippon, an expert in neuroscience at Ashton University, Birmingham, claimed that stereotypes such as women being good multitaskers have no scientific links.
Wouldja look at that. Science trumping feelz. Sex dysphoria vs gender trouble.
It’s International Sows’ Day!
Burvil & Mantequilla thank the Boars of Tumblr for not being dicks about it.
Not Allowed to talk about girls exclusively, Not Allowed to ever stop talking about males and trans people.